- What are my options?
- Am I still involved with the father of the baby? Why or why not?
- Do I plan to marry the father of the baby? Why or why not?
- What are some of my goals: school, jobs, relationships?
- Do my parents know about the pregnancy?
- Have I considered adoption? Why or why not?
- What concerns/questions do I have about adoption?
- What does my family think about adoption?
- What option can help me achieve my goals?
- Would I like more information on adoption?
- Would I like to meet another girl/woman who chose adoption?
- What are some of my hopes and fears about my pregnancy?
Questions to ask an adoption agency:
- If I start the adoption process, can I change my mind? How much time will I have to change my mind?
- What if I decide I want to place my child for adoption after I take him/her home?
- I am not 18 years old. Will my parents have to be involved if I place my child for adoption?
- Will the father of the child have to be involved if I place my child for adoption?
- What will you need to know about me and the child’s father and why? What information will be confidential and what will be shared with the child and/or adoptive parents?
- Can I choose the people who will adopt my child?
- How much information is known about the people who will adopt my child?
- Can I see my child after he/she is born?
- Can I have contact with my child after the adoption?
- What kinds of arrangements are possible?
- Can I have contact with my child after he/she is an adult?
- What do most expectant mothers feel after they place their child for adoption? What services will be available to help me after I place my child for adoption?
- Do you have a support group for expectant parents who have placed their child for adoption?
- Is there someone who has used your services that I can talk with before making a decision?
- Will I have to pay for services?
- What services do you provide if I decide to parent my child?
Additional Questions That Can Help You As You Plan For You And Your Child’s Future.
Q. How can adoption be a good choice for my baby and me?
A. If you’re not ready to be a parent, you can still give your baby the gift of life by choosing adoption.
Q. Can I choose the family for my baby?
A. Yes! Most agencies have many adoptive couples who have been studied and approved.
Q. How much contact can I have with my baby after the birth and after adoption?
A. You can spend as much time with your baby at the hospital as you choose. When you are planning your child’s adoption, you can choose an open adoption plan that allows ongoing visits, or you can choose a less open adoption that keeps you informed through letters and photos. If you prefer not to have any contact, confidential adoption is also possible.
Q. How soon after birth can my baby go to the parents I choose?
A. The timing of your child’s placement depends on your preference, legal aspects, and the role of the birthfather. Many mothers want their baby placed with the adoptive family directly from the hospital, while other mothers choose interim care while they consider their adoption decision.
Q. How much will my child know about me?
A. Regardless of the type of adoption plan, you will want to provide a thorough social and medical history for your child. If you develop an adoption plan that includes ongoing contact, your child will know about you directly.
Q. Does the expectant father have any rights?
A. Both you and the expectant father have rights. If you disagree about adoption or you no longer have a relationship with him, your agency will work with him and/or the courts to determine his rights.
Q. How can I be sure that my child will be well cared for?
A. There are standards that every prospective adoptive family must meet which are set by both the agency and the state in which they live. Families are thoroughly assessed before being approved for adoption, and a caseworker will make visits to the adoptive family after placement to ensure your child’s well-being.
Q. Do I need an attorney, or do I pay my agency to assist me with the adoption?
A. In many states, you will not need an attorney, and most agencies provide services to you at no cost.
Don’t spend another day figuring this out alone.